By Valerie Doyle
At the heart of recovering is the need to look closely at your relationship, at things that were happening outside your relationship, at your partner and even yourself if you want to get complete answers. You are not responsible for your partners infidelity, but its important to find out whether you contributed to an environment ripe for an affair.
There are three critical tasks:
Find ways to manage and minimize the painful emotions.
Come to understand how the affair came about.
Reach an explicit, informed decision about how to move forward.
One of the couples goals is to re-establish, and in some cases establish, the emotional security that is critical and essential for an intimate relationship.